The Greying of Divorce

Since 1990, the divorce rate for Americans over the age of 50 has doubled, and the rate for Americans over age 65 is even a higher, according to the study by the National Center for Family & Marriage at Bowling Green State University. The marital status for...

Are you ready to use the “D” word?

The D word is not one you want to use in a marriage until and when you really mean it. Saying you want a “Divorce” is not something you say until you are ready. To end a marriage is a big decision, worsened by that heart-sinking feeling of knowing you have to tell...

Cooperating with your Ex to Dissolve the Marriage

“What?!? You’re saying I am supposed to cooperate with my ex now?!?” Yes.  If you want a divorce that is easier, less painful and more likely to set you and your family up positively for the future, you must understand that your marriage was a partnership. If you...

Why Do Marriages Fall Apart?

Why do marriages fall apart? As couples, most of us start out with differences but we assume we’ll be able to work them out or they just aren’t that important. We may even realize we don’t know absolutely everything about the person we decided to marry, so we may...

Why Should you Trust Me?

Why should you trust me?   I’ve been there and done that—and even got the t-shirt! It was my own divorce many years ago that inspired me to find less brutal ways to dissolve a marriage both legally and emotionally. I became a family law attorney with a...

Broken Dreams, Unmet Expectations

Most marriages begin with high expectations. Weddings, whether large or small, were the public celebrations of this glorious new life of “happily ever after.” Wedding vows, besides setting contractual expectations for the relationship, proclaim a dream that includes...

Irreconcilable Differences

“Irreconcilable differences” is a legal term and the most common reason for granting a no-fault divorce.  Some states use the terms irremediable breakdown, irretrievable breakdown, or incompatibility, but basically they all mean the same thing: The existence...

The Downside of a No-Fault Divorce

Though no-fault divorce has definitely helped many couples avoid the nastiness of proving that one party has breached the marital contract, many of my clients have a difficult time coming to terms with the concept of “no-fault” in the breakdown of the marriage. “Of...

The power of choice during divorce?

You Have a Choice.  Despite the fact that you have come to the point where your differences, whatever they are, are irreconcilable, you still have a lot of choice in what happens next. The choice to “live happily ever after” with your current spouse may not still...