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Divorce Done Easier
Divorce is not easy. It can wreak emotional, financial and physical havoc on you and you family. But in Divorce Done Easier, Carol Delzer shows how divorce can be done differently.
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Divorce doesn’t have to be the traumatic expensive and difficult process you’ve seen others go through. In this book, you’ll find the tools needed to make divorce empowering, respectful and transformative, to set up moving forward with a positive future.
Psychiatrists and psychotherapists will tell you that divorce is one of life’s greatest stressors. Psychological studies put divorce right up there with death of a loved one or a critical illness in terms of the havoc it can wreak emotionally, financially and physically. But you probably already know that or you wouldn’t have opened this web site.
After over twenty years in practice where I have worked with countless divorcing couples, I can tell you that divorce does not have to be as traumatic and difficult as so many divorces turn out to be.
I won’t tell you that dissolving a marriage will be a walk in the park. That would be dishonest. But I will tell you that, with the right tools and the right approach, a divorce can be a positive launching pad for what’s next in life.
Why should you trust me?
I’ve been there and done that-and even got the t-shirt! It was my own divorce many years ago that inspired me to find less brutal ways to dissolve a marriage both legally and emotionally.
I became a family law attorney with a specialty in divorce mediation and collaborative practice. And, knowing that the psychological or emotional side of divorce is equally as important as the legal side, I earned my LMFT as a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist.
I have helped over a thousand couples divorce and have witnessed the full gamut of financial circumstances, personality types, and causes for the separation, clients of all ages and ethnicities, and family dynamics. In 90% of these cases we were able to create a mutually acceptable dissolution through a process that was respectful, non-adversarial and much less expensive than so-called “normal” divorce proceedings.
Usually in the beginning of the process, these clients were anxious and uncertain, struggling to figure out just how life would look after divorce. But by the time everything was finalized, the vast majority of them felt confident and empowered.
Like my professional background, this book focuses on the emotional and psychological aspects of divorce as well as options for the legal process.
Why? Because, if you’re in an abysmal place emotionally, you cannot make good decisions. And if you make bad decisions, it will be even tougher to recover emotionally and financially from the dissolution. The two go hand in hand.
Throughout the book, I give real life experiences and show how Divorce can be Done Easier.
Collaborative Co-Parenting Book
In Eight Weeks to Collaborative Co-Parenting for Divorcing Parents, mediator Carol F. Delzer shines a light of hope and sanity on the co-parenting process during a divorce. Too many children are pushed aside as their parents battle over issues that may or may not directly affect each child’s well-being.
So how can parents support their children through this difficult period? How do they move from marriage partners to parenting partners? Delzer shows how to build an honesty-based, collaborative relationship that resolves conflict, including managing emotions, showing mutual respect, and entering healthy negotiations.
More than a guide, this is a program that the courts and parents can use to maximize a peaceful transition while minimizing the emotional damage suffered by their children. Straightforward and user-friendly, this book will help parents will learn the kind of positive collaborative wisdom that leads to healthier divorce and happier children.
Positive Discipline for Single Parents
A Positive, Proven Approach to Single Parenting!
As a single parent in our complex world, you face the challenge of doing alone a job that was meant for two people. In addition, self-doubt and guilt may dampen the joy you experience raising your child. What do you do?
Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust the classic POSITIVE DISCIPLINE series for its consistent, commonsense approach to child rearing. In this completely revised and updated edition of Positive Discipline for Single Parents you’ll learn how to succeed as a single parent in the most important job of your life: raising a child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful.
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Inside this reassuring book, you’ll discover how to:
- Identify potential problems and develop skills to prevent them
- Budget time each week for family activities
- Use nonpunitive methods to help your children make wise decisions about their behavior
- And much, much more!
“Provides very important information for single parents, especially in today’s violent society. Used as a resource, it can help parents deal with discipline issues in a positive way and in turn help their children become responsible citizens.” —Judye Foy, international vice president, Community Relations, Parents Without Partners
Our Testimonials
“Priceless Info about Divorce Options”
This is an excellent book for anyone contemplating a divorce. The real-life examples make this valuable information easy to understand and explain how divorce can be done respectfully. Chapter 9 contains priceless information to the public about the divorce options of which people are often not aware.
– Hal D. Bartholomew, Collaborative Attorney-Mediator, Fellow, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML)
“Priceless Info about Divorce Options”
This is an excellent book for anyone contemplating a divorce. The real-life examples make this valuable information easy to understand and explain how divorce can be done respectfully. Chapter 9 contains priceless information to the public about the divorce options of which people are often not aware.
– Hal D. Bartholomew, Collaborative Attorney-Mediator, Fellow, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML)
”Can be the Best Gift for You and Your Children”
Divorce Done Easier can be the best gift you give yourself and your children to guide you through this life-changing event. Divorce can be so painful. However, this book can serve as a trusted friend to guide you through a respectful process that will help you heal the pain while learning skills for greater joy instead of bitterness.
– Jane Nelsen, EdD, author and co-author of the Positive Discipline Series
”Can be the Best Gift for You and Your Children”
Divorce Done Easier can be the best gift you give yourself and your children to guide you through this life-changing event. Divorce can be so painful. However, this book can serve as a trusted friend to guide you through a respectful process that will help you heal the pain while learning skills for greater joy instead of bitterness.
– Jane Nelsen, EdD, author and co-author of the Positive Discipline Series
“Emerge [from Divorce] Wiser, Less Battered & More Appreciative”
Carol Delzer has charted a sensitive, compassionate and effective way for people who are divorcing to not only survive their divorce, but emerge wiser, less battered and more appreciative of their lives. She has provided guidance through what could otherwise be a destructive and more painful process.
– Gary Friedman, Attorney-Mediator, Author of A Guide to Divorce Mediation and Challenging Conflict; Cofounder and Trainer for Center for Understanding in Conflict
“Emerge [from Divorce] Wiser, Less Battered & More Appreciative”
Carol Delzer has charted a sensitive, compassionate and effective way for people who are divorcing to not only survive their divorce, but emerge wiser, less
battered and more appreciative of their lives. She has provided guidance through what could otherwise be a destructive and more painful process.
– Gary Friedman, Attorney-Mediator, Author of A Guide to Divorce Mediation and Challenging Conflict; Cofounder and Trainer for Center for Understanding in Conflict
“Navigate Divorce in a Respectful Way”
Divorce Done Easier by Carol Delzer is a must-read guide for anyone going through a divorce. It shows in clear, direct language the process of divorce and how to navigate it in a way that is respectful to your needs, the needs of your spouse and those of your children. The author is trained as both an attorney and a therapist and is able to guide you through the legal and emotional hurdles that often turn divorce into a protracted legal nightmare. You will find this book invaluable.
– John O’Neal, MD, author of Handbook of Clinical Psychopharmacology
“Navigate Divorce in a Respectful Way”
Divorce Done Easier by Carol Delzer is a must-read guide for anyone going through a divorce. It shows in clear, direct language the process of divorce and how to navigate it in a way that is respectful to your needs, the needs of your spouse and those of your children. The author is trained as both an attorney and a therapist and is able to guide you through the legal and emotional hurdles that often turn divorce into a protracted legal nightmare. You will find this book invaluable.
– John O’Neal, MD, author of Handbook of Clinical Psychopharmacology
“Accessible, Empathetic Book”
Carol Delzer has written a very accessible, empathetic book on a process that usually feels maze-like and downright inhumane. As she demonstrated with her first two books, Collaborative Co-parenting and Positive Discipline for Single Parents, it’s as though you’re chatting with a trusted (but firm) friend who wants to open doors and minds. Divorce Done Easier could easily be subtitled, “Let’s be Grownups, Just This Once.” It’s a comprehensive, thoughtful work and I strongly recommend it.
~ Ed Goldman, Daily columnist, Sacramento Business Journal
“Accessible, Empathetic Book”
Carol Delzer has written a very accessible, empathetic book on a process that usually feels maze-like and downright inhumane. As she demonstrated with her first two books, Collaborative Co-parenting and Positive Discipline for Single Parents, it’s as though you’re chatting with a trusted (but firm) friend who wants to open doors and minds. Divorce Done Easier could easily be subtitled, “Let’s be Grownups, Just This Once.” It’s a comprehensive, thoughtful work and I strongly recommend it.
~ Ed Goldman, Daily columnist, Sacramento Business Journal
“If Only This Book Had Been Available During My Divorce…”
Combining her years of experience as a therapist and attorney, Carol Delzer has written the most important book available on how to go through a difficult divorce in the most elegant way possible. If only this book and Carol’s advice had been available during my divorce, it would have been better for the two of us, the kids, and our bank account.
– Patrick McCallum, Legislative Advocate for higher education and community colleges; founder of College and Corporate Brain Trust
“If Only This Book Had Been Available During My Divorce…”
Combining her years of experience as a therapist and attorney, Carol Delzer has written the most important book available on how to go through a difficult divorce in the most elegant way possible. If only this book and Carol’s advice had been available during my divorce, it would have been better for the two of us, the kids, and our bank account.
– Patrick McCallum, Legislative Advocate for higher education and community colleges; founder of College and Corporate Brain Trust
“Filled with a Wealth of Knowledge and Practical Tools”
Carol has written a book that will be extremely helpful for anyone going through a divorce. This book is a treasure filled with a wealth of knowledge and practical tools that people can use to make their divorce process more humane and less adversarial. Throughout the book, there are valuable tips and exercises to help the reader deal with change, communication, conflict and co-parenting. Divorce Done Easier is great information for people going through a divorce as well as family and friends who care about them.
– Betsey Williams, Licensed Marriage, Family Therapist, Collaborative Coach and Child Specialist
“Filled with a Wealth of Knowledge and Practical Tools”
Carol has written a book that will be extremely helpful for anyone going through a divorce. This book is a treasure filled with a wealth of knowledge and practical tools that people can use to make their divorce process more humane and less adversarial. Throughout the book, there are valuable tips and exercises to help the reader deal with change, communication, conflict and co-parenting. Divorce Done Easier is great information for people going through a divorce as well as family and friends who care about them.
– Betsey Williams, Licensed Marriage, Family Therapist, Collaborative Coach and Child Specialist
“Should be Required Reading in Every Divorce”
This book should be required reading in every divorce. Carol uses her expertise to clearly explain the legal process options and ways to grow through the real-life changes that divorce brings. This book includes essential strategies-about strong emotions, taking responsibility and effective communication-that can immediately help anyone make better decisions for a healthy future.
– Kate Byrnes, MA, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Divorce Coach
“Should be Required Reading in Every Divorce”
This book should be required reading in every divorce. Carol uses her expertise to clearly explain the legal process options and ways to grow through the real-life changes that divorce brings. This book includes essential strategies-about strong emotions, taking responsibility and effective communication-that can immediately help anyone make better decisions for a healthy future.
– Kate Byrnes, MA, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Divorce Coach
“A Must Read for Those Committed to Divorce”
From my perspective as a practicing family law attorney of over twenty years, this book is a must read-not only for those who may be considering divorce, but for those who have already committed to divorce. Carol Delzer helps readers understand the emotional processes that often lead to the decision to divorce and helps to identify and manage those processes. Readers will understand the transformational opportunities open to them with the insights from an experienced family law attorney and therapist, and will have the tools, communication techniques, and legal insights to help them through a difficult process; as well as alternatives to move through the divorce process in a respectful, cost-efficient, and less emotionally harmful manner.
– Mark Johannessen, JD, CFLS, Attorney-Mediator
“A Must Read for Those Committed to Divorce”
From my perspective as a practicing family law attorney of over twenty years, this book is a must read-not only for those who may be considering divorce, but for those who have already committed to divorce. Carol Delzer helps readers understand the emotional processes that often lead to the decision to divorce and helps to identify and manage those processes. Readers will understand the transformational opportunities open to them with the insights from an experienced family law attorney and therapist, and will have the tools, communication techniques, and legal insights to help them through a difficult process; as well as alternatives to move through the divorce process in a respectful, cost-efficient, and less emotionally harmful manner.
– Mark Johannessen, JD, CFLS, Attorney-Mediator
