As difficult as the divorce process is, one way to make it less stressful emotionally is to work with your spouse when making decisions regarding ending your marriage. No matter how long you’ve been together, there are many details that need to be sorted through and decisions need to be reached jointly.
What Is Mediation?
Mediation is a process where both people come together to resolve their differences and reach agreements in an informal setting instead of a courtroom. This approach can save you a substantial amount of money and time by avoiding the litigation process.
The Mediator’s Job
When you hire a mediator, you’ll be working with an attorney who will serve as a neutral participant in your decisions. The mediator’s job is to help advise you about the law, keep your conversations friendly, and take you through the steps in a logical manner.
The mediator does not provide legal advice or represent either you or your spouse, though, so consulting with an attorney before finalizing details is highly advised.
Financial Benefits of Mediation
One of the benefits of hiring a mediator is that you only need to meet with him or her regarding issues that you haven’t yet agreed upon. In short, this means you may only need to pay for a few hours of assistance. Mediators only charge for actual services rendered on an hourly basis.
What Will We Discuss?
Each mediation session is unique. If you have lots of details to work out, then you may need to meet for more than one session. Decisions about parenting, dividing assets, child custody, retirement or life insurance benefits, and other important details should be discussed during the Divorce mediation sessions. Since some of these subjects can be emotional and problematic, addressing them in a private setting can relieve some of the pressure.
You may also want to use this time to discuss sensitive issues like scheduling child custody during holidays or brainstorming about ways to thoughtfully introduce your children to new potential partners. No matter what, these conversations will take place eventually, so discussing some of them in advance with a mediator can make them go more smoothly.
Saving Money and Retaining Control
If you and your spouse decide that you are both willing to listen to each other and proceed through the divorce process amicably, then mediation is a good choice. One of the main benefits is having more control over the process. By working together, both you and your spouse will likely come to arrangements that you can stick with … and that you’ve worked through together in a calm, fair manner.
If you’re interested in working with an experienced Family Law mediator, contact us today at Family Law Center to learn how you can benefit from our services.