Divorce Process Options
Once you have decided to divorce, the option you select regarding how you will get your divorce is probably the single most significant choice you will make.
In a traditional divorce, each party retains an attorney and the attorneys negotiate the divorce, either privately or, if necessary, in front of a judge. This process is generally the most expensive, time-consuming and emotionally draining option. But you have other options you can consider: mediation, collaborative divorce, settlement-oriented divorce, or self-representation. These different alternative dispute resolution (ADR) or consensual dispute resolution (CDR) options give you more control over the decisions you make and how you make them. They can also save you time, money and stress.
Choosing the best option for your divorce depends on a number of factors, such as motivation to come to mutually beneficial solutions (or not), the level of contentiousness of the divorce, the ability to disagree constructively, each party’s ability to speak up for themselves, the level of trust or mistrust between the parties, and how realistic each party’s expectations are.
The other question to consider is whether you and your spouse can agree on the appropriate divorce option. If you do not agree initially, some attorneys would tell you that litigation is your only option. But I disagree. In my experience, if one of you thoroughly researches the options and shares that information with the other, you can often find that the other party is willing to explore the options with you. For example, hundreds of couples have come to me after reviewing the information and insight I offer here on my website (www.FamilyLawCenter.US).